30 dating olds quality year
birthday advice was underscored when I talked to a single male friend who also turns 30 today.
Unlike me, he’s actually been a bit stressed about his birthday, worrying about whether he’s achieved enough in his career, whether he should be settling down, etc.
I am not married, haven’t had a serious relationship in nearly three years, and until recently had never wished I had a husband, never wondered “what else is there,” or felt pressure from anyone in my life to settle down.
But lately, I’ve been fielding a torrent of unsolicited pep talks from older people offering me advice on turning 30, an occasion I had erroneously thought had lost most of its connotation of impending doom.
We’re far more likely to go to college than our parents, especially if we’re women.The pressure in the form of pearls of wisdom began coming my way months before my birthday.One relative suggested I “stop moving across the country every few years,” so I could find someone to settle down with.“For me, 32 to 35 were the high-stress years where I was thinking, ‘What is wrong with me, am I commitment phobic, do I have deep psychological issues? Even explicitly telling people that she wasn’t married because she didn’t want to be, she says, wasn’t always convincing.The median age for an American woman to first get married is 27, compared to 20 in 1960. But despite the fact that 50 percent of Americans are now single, there are no signs that young women are less likely than their mothers to get married eventually, Coontz’s research has found—we’re simply more likely to do it in our 30s instead of our 20s.